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Mother’s Day takes on new meaning when you’ve lost your Mom. (Illustration: Getty)
Mother’s Day takes on new meaning when you’ve lost your Mom. Instead of a day to get your mom a card, flowers, a meal or a book entitled There Are Moms Way Worse Than You, Mother’s Day becomes a stark reminder of what you are missing. Gone is the person who did so much for you and your life, as I have detailed in Forbes previously.
Mother’s Day 2025 is the first one for me without my mom. It’s still hard to believe that the woman who was so strong, so fiercely independent and so highly intelligent with a keen scientific mind has passed away. Even though logically I knew that nothing is forever with the possible exception of PFAS chemicals, I couldn’t concretely fathom what it would be like after her death.
Through much of her life she imparted to me lots of wisdom and taught me by example independence and to always stand up for myself. Upon her recent death, one of the first things I wanted to do was extend her legacy by passing along at least some of what I learned from her to others. And even after her departure, she is continuing to influence me in oh so many positive ways. Case in point, experiencing Mother’s Day for the first time without her has already taught me a number of things, 10 of which I would now like to pass onto you:
1. On Mother’s Day, Accept Your Feelings And That It May Be A Difficult Day.
Why wouldn’t this be a difficult day? After all, you are human, and your mother played a big role in who you’ve become. You can find yourself missing seemingly simple things like hearing her voice when she picks up the phone. At the same time, things that she told you, or even nagged you about, can continue to resonate in your head, especially on Mother’s Day.
Well, remember that REO Speedwagon song and don’t try to fight whatever feelings may have. And don’t expect yourself to feel exactly like others do. Everyone is different. Your relationship with your mother is unique. No one should tell you how you should feel. Pediatrician, author and parenting expert Alison Escalante, MD, has warned parents against “shoulding” all over themselves when feeling like they are not getting it right when raising their kids. The same should apply to kids who become grown-ups and lose their parents.
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